relationships

How Do We Limit Relationship Stress After the Baby Arrives?

How Do We Limit Relationship Stress After the Baby Arrives?

I’m sitting at a café and a pregnant woman and her husband just walked in. No biggie, right? Except, since I started working with expecting & new parents, whenever I see a pregnant couple, my brain starts spinning with post-baby research like…Conflicts skyrocket after birth; 90% of couples report a drop in relationship satisfaction after their first childperpetual issues appear more frequently post-birth. 

I have to admit, I feel daunted when I share this info with expecting couples. Why? Because no matter how many examples of stressed relationships we witness among new parents we know, many of us remain convinced we’ll avoid those challenges with our spouses.

Giving Thanks: Cultivating Gratitude in Our Relationships & Parenting

Giving Thanks: Cultivating Gratitude in Our Relationships & Parenting

As a parent to a preschooler, one of my pet peeves has been teaching my daughter to say: “Thank you.” I mean no disrespect to “please,” “excuse me,” or “bless you,” all of which I’ve also espoused. But expressing thanks strikes me as the foundation of politeness and a key to strong relationships with others.

A recent study from the University of Carolina at Wilmington affirms the power of gratitude, but has me reconsidering my assumptions about expressing it.  Relationship satisfaction and a spouse’s feelings of gratitude are linked. Our spouse’s emotional state of thankfulness impacts us more than their words.

What's the Most Important Relationship-Issue for New Parents? No, Not Sex

What's the Most Important Relationship-Issue for New Parents? No, Not Sex

What's the Most Important Relationship-Issue for New Parents? No, Not Sex!  

If there’s one postpartum relationship topic that’s addressed in the media with some regularity, it’s sex: Are you getting any? Do you both want it?  There’s no doubt about it: Sex is important to relationship satisfaction.

But the more I talk to new parents, and the more I learn about the impact of newborns on relationships, the more convinced I become that, in focusing on sex, we’ve downplayed a far more important postpartum priority:...

Helping New Dads Transition to Parenthood

Helping New Dads Transition to Parenthood

I was telling a friend who has three kids—and works with pregnant women during delivery & postpartum—that I’ve heard a few new dads share the following: It was hard for me to deal with my wife’s total focus on our newborn. It seemed like our relationship no longer existed for her, and I felt useless with our baby.  How did my friend respond?