For many expecting couples, pregnancy can be an amazing, bonding chapter in relationships, a time when: We bask in the glow of what we love most about each other, connect in anticipation of our baby’s arrival, and vow to not let what happened to other couples who had kids—bickering, disconnection intimacy issues—happen to us.
I’m sitting at a café and a pregnant woman and her husband just walked in. No biggie, right? Except, since I started working with expecting & new parents, whenever I see a pregnant couple, my brain starts spinning with post-baby research like…Conflicts skyrocket after birth; 90% of couples report a drop in relationship satisfaction after their first child; perpetual issues appear more frequently post-birth.
I have to admit, I feel daunted when I share this info with expecting couples. Why? Because no matter how many examples of stressed relationships we witness among new parents we know, many of us remain convinced we’ll avoid those challenges with our spouses.