So a few years ago, a couple was expecting and asked if anyone had advice for first time parents. And lots of experienced moms and dads chimed in. There was some AMAZING ADVICE given and I wanted to share that advice with you because I see so many first time parents struggle in the beginning for different reasons. I think when you hear from other parents who have been there, done that... it can help to normalize parenthood.
Life is full of changes, tangible shifts in our experiences and circumstances. Some are minor (e.g., waking in the morning), others more significant (e.g., having a baby, changing careers).
According to change-‐expert William Bridges, change is an action or event—e.g., becoming a parent—and transition is the “inner reorientation and self-‐definition that you have to go through in order to incorporate...changes in your life.” For a change to succeed—even a change we’ve chosen—and for us to fully integrate and embrace it, we need to transition from what-‐ was to what-‐is and what-‐will-‐be, from the past to our new life-‐chapter.
What's the Most Important Relationship-Issue for New Parents? No, Not Sex!
If there’s one postpartum relationship topic that’s addressed in the media with some regularity, it’s sex: Are you getting any? Do you both want it? There’s no doubt about it: Sex is important to relationship satisfaction.
But the more I talk to new parents, and the more I learn about the impact of newborns on relationships, the more convinced I become that, in focusing on sex, we’ve downplayed a far more important postpartum priority:...